Advice for dating after divorce
So how can you make post-divorce dating—whether you're looking for a good time or a good (relationship-minded) man—less daunting?
Read on for 10 tips that will help you get back in Cupid's good graces.
It means this: “Love will come to me — it’s a WHEN, not an IF.
I’m in it to win it, not in it for a minute.” At this point, I hope you’ve done the "inside work" necessary to find a healthy relationship.
If this is where you find yourself right now here’s what I learned about dating after divorce – things I came to realise and things I’d recommend if you’re feeling unsure or even terrified. Have a clear idea of what you want from online dating – Are you looking for a new partner or for someone to go on occasional dates with? If you’re looking for long-term commitment, there’s no point in falling for someone who’s looking for a quick fling. This isn’t about a long shopping list of requirements but it’s worth getting some sense of what you hold dear. Write a great online profile – Spend time writing a great profile that stands out from the crowd, with as few clichés as possible. If you have a heavy and disillusioned heart with negative inner dialogue, it’s not the right time to be looking for a mate. Be open-minded – you never know who you might meet if you can finally avoid looking for or dating what you believe to be ‘your type’. Last but not least, remember to enjoy yourself, have fun and lighten up.
Divorce is one of the most traumatic events we go through, and when we reach the proverbial "light at the end of the tunnel," many of us feel that little spring in our step and start to think about dating again.
So let yourself shine."Dating and empowerment coach Laurel House agrees, suggesting that you need to get comfortable being alone as well.
"You don't need to feel like you 'should' be out doing things," she says.
Are you aware of your role in the marriage’s demise?And, have you made as much peace as possible with your ex and the divorce?Dating from a place of anger doesn’t usually lead to good choices."Know that it's okay to be exactly who you are," says Erik Newton, a former divorce lawyer and the founder of Together, a magazine and podcast for couples."You've grown and changed; you're stronger and wiser, and, yes, you also have some wounds.